I'm sorry to hear that. Rejection by someone you like canbe difficult to deal with. He needs to learn to be more confident in himself and not rely on what others think of him. I'll definitely pray for him!
Narnia Forums - The Narnia Fans Community
Sleepy Mouse
Copperfox
I'm playing the long game with Mike. He did message me again recently, briefly.
Sleepy Mouse
That's good. Hopefully, he'll calm down and re-emerge from his shell. I'll keep praying for him.
Copperfox
Thank you. Mike is slowly opening up to me, but still pessimistic.
Sleepy Mouse
Any time! Hopefully, Mike can build up his confidence again. I'd suggest growing his relationship with God first and foremost, if he's a believer in Christ. Next, take good care of himself; eat right, work out, get outdoors for hiking or camping or some activity.
Sleepy Mouse
Find some godly friends to build up a support base for spiritual growth and to do things with. Also, let go of any preconceived notions about the opposite sex and relationships. Basically, follow the Golden Rule. Treat each person with respect, diginity, and courtesy.
Copperfox
This evening, for a great rarity, I had a voice call with Mike. He's finding it hard to let go of the girl he wanted. She also has trauma in her history, but she still WON'T ALLOW Mike to come alongside her as one wounded soul with another.
Sleepy Mouse
I can sympathize with him wanting to be with her and to help her. But, she may not want him to help her. And that's a situation that he should not get into. Give her time and space and pray for her and himself. And possibly, he might be able to reconnect with her. But h e needs to understand that she may just want to be friends and nothing more.
Sleepy Mouse
And if she does just want friendship, he needs to be willing to accept that and move on. You can bring a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
But definitely pray and seek God's guidance first!
But definitely pray and seek God's guidance first!
Sleepy Mouse
How's Wood Nymph, by the way? Doing better, I hope?
Copperfox
Worse, I'm afraid. Long ago, animal behavior experimenters discovered that, if a laboratory rat NEVER gets the food pellet no matter which lever he presses, the rat will GIVE UP on pressing levers. Hope has been disappointed, cheated, deprived and hurt SO MUCH that she can scarcely allow herself to think there even MIGHT be any good outcome.
Sleepy Mouse
I'm so sorry to hear that. I truly am. Maybe she should not go to church. Take a break from it and just try to focus on growing her relationship with the Lord. Reading the Bible and praying and learning from solid Bible based teachers will help. I can relate. Being hurt by people who claim to be "Christians" suck. Church burn sucks. I'm praying for her!
Copperfox
A combination of eyesight problems and memory problems makes reading ANYTHING with depth a problem for Hope. I do talk to her about my own favorite Scriptures; most recently, the parts of Job which affirm life after death.
Sleepy Mouse
There are quite a few good audio Bibles out there on the internet. She could try listening to one a bit at a time. Also, singing good, solid hymns helps in times of distress, frsutration, or anger.
Sleepy Mouse
How are Mike and Wood Nymph? Have you heard from either of them?
Copperfox
Funny you should ask. Just yesterday, Mike messaged me to say-- without as much detail as I would have liked-- that he had finally achieved faith in God. Hope (Wood Nymph) has enough going on, bad and good, to fill a 400-page biography. I'll have to share it fragment by fragment.
Copperfox
As for "heard from": did I never tell you that Wood Nymph LIVES WITH ME? Born in Louisiana in 1992, Hope Bradshaw never saw Colorado while growing up, but she had relatives here. I used to do costume play with her cousin William. Soon after Hope's parents died, her uncle, Will's father, brought her up here.
Copperfox
Will introduced me to Hope in June of 2018. Having VAST experience at friendship and family relations with females, I gained her confidence quickly, and began showing her the sights of Colorado. I gradually learned how badly she had been emotionally abused by her Father In Sperm Only.
Copperfox
Will is a decent guy, but his parents are phonies. They wanted to be admired for their "generosity" to their orphaned niece; but they were delighted to have ME do stuff like driving Hope to get her state ID. Less than a year after our first meeting, they handed her off to me outright.
Copperfox
I am the VERY FIRST man who has ever loved Hope. (She did have a good mother, whom I'll be glad to meet in Heaven.) I'm trying to be for Hope all that her father and her uncle should have been. I have taken to introducing her to people as my granddaughter, as distinct from my actual daughter Annemarie.