Sforzando77
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*just a note, I'm not positive this is the correct place to start this, but I figured the general topic forum would be best. Mods feel free to move it if need be*
This is kind of a hard thing for me to write about, but it's been troubling me for some time. I used to be so close to my younger sister. We are just two years apart, and all through high school and first few years of college we loved to hang out together and do things.
The last few years we have really become distant from each other, and it came to a head last summer. She changed a lot during the time I was away doing my teaching, started smoking and drinking excessively, dropped out of college and just a generally negative person. It made me sick to be around her. We were together at my parents house for a week last summer, and she came home drunk well after midnight every night, and one day I had to go and pick her up from a bar because she was drunk by noon.
It was so upsetting to be around her and since then I haven't been able to look at her the same. She has gotten help and is not in such a tight grip of her addictions anymore, but she is still incredibly negative and complains constantly. Complains about how poor she is, complains about how stupid people are, complains about being a vegan (even though she chose to do that??). Not to mention she is incredibly disrespectful of the Christian faith - I would have no problem with her not believing or choosing to look into other religions, but she is just awful and says terrible things in front of me... knowing full well that those are the things I believe in!
I live in the same town as my family again and so I have ended up seeing more of her, and it is just so draining to be around someone so pessimistic. I've found myself at the point where if I plan to go to my parent's house and find out she will be there too, I would rather not even go at all. I don't even like talking to her and try to avoid it as much as possible. This makes me feel awful because we used to be so close. But if she is going to continue behaving this way I just don't want her to be a part of my life. I don't have the energy to deal with that kind of personality.
Has anyone else ever felt like this about their sibling? I know that since I am an adult I can choose to interact with whomever I want, but since she is family I find it harder than if she were just a person I knew.
Thanks if you made it all the way through.
This is kind of a hard thing for me to write about, but it's been troubling me for some time. I used to be so close to my younger sister. We are just two years apart, and all through high school and first few years of college we loved to hang out together and do things.
The last few years we have really become distant from each other, and it came to a head last summer. She changed a lot during the time I was away doing my teaching, started smoking and drinking excessively, dropped out of college and just a generally negative person. It made me sick to be around her. We were together at my parents house for a week last summer, and she came home drunk well after midnight every night, and one day I had to go and pick her up from a bar because she was drunk by noon.
It was so upsetting to be around her and since then I haven't been able to look at her the same. She has gotten help and is not in such a tight grip of her addictions anymore, but she is still incredibly negative and complains constantly. Complains about how poor she is, complains about how stupid people are, complains about being a vegan (even though she chose to do that??). Not to mention she is incredibly disrespectful of the Christian faith - I would have no problem with her not believing or choosing to look into other religions, but she is just awful and says terrible things in front of me... knowing full well that those are the things I believe in!
I live in the same town as my family again and so I have ended up seeing more of her, and it is just so draining to be around someone so pessimistic. I've found myself at the point where if I plan to go to my parent's house and find out she will be there too, I would rather not even go at all. I don't even like talking to her and try to avoid it as much as possible. This makes me feel awful because we used to be so close. But if she is going to continue behaving this way I just don't want her to be a part of my life. I don't have the energy to deal with that kind of personality.
Has anyone else ever felt like this about their sibling? I know that since I am an adult I can choose to interact with whomever I want, but since she is family I find it harder than if she were just a person I knew.
Thanks if you made it all the way through.