Yes, I was aware of your losses of lions, though Freeway's demise was news to me.
I understand you not knowing what to say about Carol. I can, however, ASK YOU not to say one thing in particular. NEVER EVER say or suggest that my ex and I are "friends." With the nationwide acceptance of easy divorce, the "still friends" drivel has become a standard way of trivializing the calamity. I do in fact forgive Carol; I still love her; I behave civilly to her; and I even will do active good turns for her when there's occasion for it. But I will NOT call her a "friend." Friends DON'T DO to you what Carol did to me.