Are you a Pastor's Kid?

[dayhawk68]

Every church has cliques. Every church has old gossips. Every church has troublemakers. Every church has people who aren't happy with the pastor, what he's preaching, or the like. Every church has people who hate someone's guts. Every church has people who hold deep and sometimes bitter grudges against each other.

Ya get my drift? No church, no matter how loving or how much of a family-atmosphere, is free from the above reasons. You might think it is, but let me assure, no church is immune.

lol duh! thats human.

but helping people get over their grudges
holding the gossips accountable
and so on is what I mean by helping
as Christians not only are we to set an example for the world
but also to each other.
Now Im not saying im perfect
far from it
but I try to dress modestly
to be nice to EVERYONE
to not gossip and to forgive those who done me wrong (you dont have to immediatly trust them though)
anyways, instead of focusing on the negative AK you can take it and channel that focus on trying to help your brothers and sisters in Christ
Im sure its a pain
but I also know that it will be worth it if you try.

 

[DaydreamBeliever]

*claps* well said..I think if everybody tried to be nice to each other the world would be a MUCH better place.

 

[Benisse]

mostly a plug for the ministry

you know I just dont get it
I would eat my heart out if I could get a guy that was becoming a pastor
I'd be estatic
then being able to start a church and be partly in charge of what goes on in the church
not to mention what I could do in the community
plus being a role model
I'd be thrilled!

I just dont get why being a pastor's kid or marrying one is a bad thing?

For me at least, the best part of being a pastor's wife is that I get to be in my husband's church no matter where he is stationed, getting to serve with and be with my best friend and get to hear him preach when I'm not helping in jr. worship. I think what makes it work for us is that his public face is the same as his private face; he truly lives what he preaches. And he loves what he does, even though there are lots of stresses and difficult challenges inherent in the ministry. When he is hurting I try to divide his sorrows and multiply his joys... and both of us try to protect our kids from the negatives and let our kids be themselves... It doesn't always work out, but we try.

Ever since he was a jr higher, my husband loved playing basketball and that continued long into our marriage. Even when he was in his forties he would still go out to the park to get into pick up games; and he started going regularly when there were a group of young men who worked as box boys etc at our neighborhood grocery store playing at the courts across from our home. They referred to him as "the old guy who plays basketball."

One day after playing they were all kind of sitting around hanging out at the park and talking. The conversation turned into a gripe session on the part of the grocery store guys, all complaining about this and that about work. After a while, my husband said, "Well as for me, I love my job."

One of the newbies from the grocery group in mock shock turned to him and said, "Oh yeah? Well what are you? A photographer for Playboy?!!?"

"Nope, much better than that... I pastor a church."

[[major jaw drop on the part of the newbie... then everyone else busted up laughing]]

We serve in a conference of churches that network together and so church assignments are handled by a stationing committee independent of the congregations, though they take into account the pastor's gifts and preferences as well as congregational input. I like this system because it kind of helps protect from politicking and drama behind the scenes. We have friends who have served in independent congregations (= the congregation calls its own pastor) and when it works its great, but sometimes there will be a couple of folks in the congregation who feel like they are called to run things and when pastors get caught in the crossfire they can really get chewed up and spit out. My husband's seminary room mate and my last boyfriend before I met my husband tragically both left the ministry for this very unfortunate reason.

The ministry has its challenges, for sure. But we have been blest to see God at work in, through, around, and in spite of us. If you have read Elisabeth Eliot's Shadow of the Almighty, we are TWO's (teeny weeny operators), but we are rich because we've gotten to know God in different ways in each congregation we have been privileged to serve in... But that's a whole different story.