Continuing "The Possible Future of Alipang Havens"
Chapter 47: Weddings, Present and Potential
On Monday evening, a small cavalcade entered Sussex by way of the neglected but still-usable roads, then crossed the bridge over the Powder River to seek out the Alipang Havens residence. Leading the way was Ransom Kramer on his rugged mountain bicycle, and in the attached cart he often used with it rode a two-year-old Amish boy: Felix Reinhart, youngest child of Hezekiah and Lois Reinhart. Felix's parents were immediately behind in a two-horse wagon, with the rest of their brood, including Lydia whom Ransom was courting in all but official status. Bringing up the rear in a similar wagon were Hezekiah's brother Ulrich and his wife Greta, with their own children. Local friends of this Amish clan were pleased to see Ulrich appearing completely recovered from his bear-mauling of last April.
Some were already aware that there was another purpose behind the Amish visit besides purchases of necessities like sewing supplies which could be had in Sussex. Sylvia Lathrop, and a couple about her age named Cung--a Vietnamese-born husband called Poc Tsan with a white American wife named Elsa--appeared and greeted the Reinharts, who would be lodging that night in their houses: Hezekiah's family with Sylvia and Ulrich's with Poc Tsan and Elsa. After a little discussion of the evening's logistics, the Amish contingent followed Ransom the rest of the way to the Havens household.
"You missed Alipang," Kim told them as she welcomed them; "he's out patrolling for the Grange again." This did not prevent the visitors, after their horses were attended to and housed in the Havens' crude stable, from joining in a lengthy conversation about yesterday's church raids. Yesterday had been an "off Sunday" for the nearby Amish, so it remained uncertain whether they might also have been raided if they had been holding worship yesterday. Lorraine was not quick to put her oar in; but eventually she remarked, "I doubt very much that any other churches, at least in the Wyoming Sector, are marked for bullying. They went after the churches of the two Havens households, older and younger generations, because the extended Havens family has been an anchor for people here in Wyoming. Just by _being_ the men they are, Eric and Alipang are men whom the Overseers particularly want to keep under control."
"But judging by what happened at your church here," said Lois Reinhart, "our Heavenly Father showed the Overseers that it's HE Who's in control." Hezekiah followed up on this by saying, "So let's show our trust in Him, by proceeding on to happier matters."
Everyone glanced at the sixteen-year-old Lydia, whose blush was the more pronounced by contrast with the white Amish cap atop her head.
"With Lorraine soon leaving us," observed Kim, "Lydia's help will be _very_ timely."
"It's your wedding that's timely," said Lois directly to Lorraine. "Farm work is winding down for the winter now, so we can spare our daughter better now than if you and Mr. Shao were getting hitched in, say, March."
Kim nodded. "I understand that you Amish favor November weddings precisely _because_ they're less disruptive of routine than weddings at the height of planting or harvest."
"Right," replied Ulrich, inserting a word since he was the elder of the Reinhart brothers. The one word being enough to satisfy him, his wife Greta took the opportunity to add: "And now Lydia will have gainful employment over the winter."
"While she seeks God's will, helped by seeing better what life here is like," resumed Lois, looking at Ransom with an intent but friendly gaze. "While all of us know that young Mr. Kramer has no wrongful designs upon our daughter's purity, her living with Mrs. Lathrop will ensure an independent witness to the decency of the arrangement. And of course, she'll do some domestic work for her hostess as well as here."
"We've spoken to our preacher about all of this," Hezekiah told Kim. "He has talked with Ransom a time or two, and accepts our word that he is an honorable young Christian man. The preacher feels that these winter months ought to be enough time for Lydia and Ransom to make some progress at knowing their own hearts and seeking God's heart. Next spring, if the two of them have grown closer together, our congregation will be willing to acknowledge them as _officially_ courting. But this will not yet be the point of no return where our church is concerned. Lydia's baptism into full Amish membership need not come for some time yet--so that, even if her courting with Ransom does look like leading to marriage, they'll still have time to decide which direction they'll go spiritually."
"If Ransom feels called to become Amish," said Lois, "we'll welcome him into the Plain community with all our hearts. And if Lydia feels called to forego the Amish vow and marry as an Englischer Christian, it will not be counted to her as sin, since she will not have taken the vow that she should be guilty of breaking it."
Hezekiah took up from there: "Lydia's mother and I have agreed, along with my brother and his wife, and our preacher and his wife, that since it is not an offense against the Ordnung for Lydia to wed outside our church provided she didn't bind herself to it, she would not in that case be in any way cut off from our love and our society."
During this, Wilson Havens had been keeping his own siblings, and the younger Amish children, occupied elsewhere, since the current conversation might venture onto a bit of adult ground. And so it now did, by way of Lorraine:
"I don't know if you Amish can see the irony of our having this discussion in Ransom and Lydia's presence. In the world outside the fence, people would see nothing amiss with Ransom taking Lydia's virginity right now, as casually as riding his bicycle; but they would think it was _weird_ for us to talk about a possible future _marriage_ for them!"
Lydia blushed even more furiously. But she reflected on the fact that Lorraine Kramer was known to be a righteous, God-honoring woman; and on the fact that Englischer Christians were capable of offhandedly _mentioning_ the possibility of immoral actions without it meaning they were _condoning_ such actions.
Next Lorraine looked her own son in the eye. "Ransom? Since the Reinharts have honored us by being so open about their position, I want to say this in _their_ hearing. I honestly believe that your father is able to watch us from Heaven; and I am sure down to my bones that he _won't_ feel disrespected by you if you do decide to become Amish."
Ransom drew near to his mother and kissed her. "Thanks, Mom." Then he looked straight up at the ceiling. "And thanks, Dad."