What do you look for in a....

*Is obsessed with Will* said:
Religion isn't a big deal with me, because everyone believes something different. Also, if he acts all gangster, uses racial slurrs and/or uses 'gay' or 'retarded' as an insult, he will drop MAJORLY on my like-o-meter (Yes, I have a Like-o-meter so leave me alone. ^_^)
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well, you need to take Religion into account because some people believe in some pretty whacko stuff. If your going to have children with a guy who believes in beating children and wife into submission then your not going to be very happy. When it comes to children, then you will both be disagreeing on what to teach them and you and your children could be raised in a home where the parents dont agree on what to teach them.

now as for the question in mind, my guy has to

1, be a diciple like me
2, love his mama (haha, or just family in general)
3, be steady in finances
4, have a job
5, be smarter than me
6, be respectable
7, he cant be a pansy
8, he cant be touchy (i wont go past holding hands first kiss is for the wedding day :D )
9, has to agree to courtship as opposed to dating (courtship really does knock out the losers)

so yeah, i have high standards and i wont lower them for anyone. I owe it to alot of people to marry someone really worth it.
 
Gryphon said:
well, you need to take Religion into account because some people believe in some pretty whacko stuff. If your going to have children with a guy who believes in beating children and wife into submission then your not going to be very happy. When it comes to children, then you will both be disagreeing on what to teach them and you and your children could be raised in a home where the parents dont agree on what to teach them. .
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I disagree. I know there are some very whacko religions, such as Tom Cruise and his Scientology deal. Do you think I would marry someone or have children with him If I thought he would do stuff like that? You don't marry people who you've just met, you get to know and trust them. That's what the whole point of marriage is: to trust and love together. If I strongly disagree with what he thinks then I won't have a relationship with him. When I said I don't care about his religion, that means I'm not going to judge him on what religion he is, because that in my eye is very shallow, and stupid.
If you love someone it shouldn't matter what religion he or she is. I've seen so many people reject other people because of their religion and creed before they even get to know them. It's sick, and I would never do it. Almost all of my friends are of different religion. Some are Catholic, some Christian, some lutheran, some Mormon, I have 3 others that are Budhist, Atheist, and Jewish. Then others who don't even have a religion. Fact of the matter is it religion shouldn't help you judge others. And I strongly believe in that.
 
They must be maned Anna Poppelwell hehehe :D :D

Seriously the need
1. To be a Christian
2. to be joyfull and have a good sence of hummer
3. Ralativlly good looking if possible
4. They can't be a vegetiean.

I think thats about it, therase dosent really mater as long as they want the relationship to work.
 
*Is obsessed with Will* said:
I disagree. I know there are some very whacko religions, such as Tom Cruise and his Scientology deal. Do you think I would marry someone or have children with him If I thought he would do stuff like that? You don't marry people who you've just met, you get to know and trust them. That's what the whole point of marriage is: to trust and love together. If I strongly disagree with what he thinks then I won't have a relationship with him. When I said I don't care about his religion, that means I'm not going to judge him on what religion he is, because that in my eye is very shallow, and stupid.
If you love someone it shouldn't matter what religion he or she is. I've seen so many people reject other people because of their religion and creed before they even get to know them. It's sick, and I would never do it. Almost all of my friends are of different religion. Some are Catholic, some Christian, some lutheran, some Mormon, I have 3 others that are Budhist, Atheist, and Jewish. Then others who don't even have a religion. Fact of the matter is it religion shouldn't help you judge others. And I strongly believe in that.
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i dont think judging people is good. but in fact there are religions out there that you might want to avoid in a marraige. And about "true love" VS "religion" well, unless your a believer in Christ i see no point in continuing. I dont want to dishonor you or try to start a fight, im just a person that tells the truth.
 
*Is Obsessed with Will*, would you mind if I asked what religious convictions (if any) you hold?

You see, I am a Christian, and I would never marry anyone if they did not believe in Christ and submit to His lordship.

"True Love" as you say is not that important in a relationship because in the end, "love" is fleeting, and it will pass away with the day (I am using the term "love" in the sense of a feeling that one may have towards another, not in the biblical sense which is a duty that one fulfills to another).

What is important in any marriage is the truth, and seeing that I believe in the truth of Christ, I would never comprimise the Truth of my Lord for a pretty face and some butterflies in my tummy.

(However, I do not mean this in any way as an insult against you, I am simply stating my believes in order to further the discussion)
 
Hmm... guys leave *is obsessed with Wil* alone. I know what it's like to be picked on at forums and it's very hurtful.

My guy would have to like rock bands, preferab;y bands like 12 Stones, Alter Bridge, anything Mainstream like TFK, he has to be in a band, he has to be sweet and have great morals.

I won't say he has to be a Christian because God might pair me up with someone who isn't a Christian.

I also like dark red hair...i think that's hot, lol. Nothing else in the physical area.
 
Gryphon said:
i dont think judging people is good. but in fact there are religions out there that you might want to avoid in a marraige. And about "true love" VS "religion" well, unless your a believer in Christ i see no point in continuing. I dont want to dishonor you or try to start a fight, im just a person that tells the truth.
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Are you suggesting that I don't believe in Christ?
 
Smog said:
*Is Obsessed with Will*, would you mind if I asked what religious convictions (if any) you hold?
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I'm Catholic, if not a little more Christian. My father is Catholic and my Mother Christian so I'm actually a little of both, and share beleifs of both, even though they are very similar. I believe in Christ and don't appreciate those who find my beliefs false.

Oh and You_set_my_soul_on_fire I appreciate the support, but I wouldn't want you to get mixed into this because of me. I've been to many forums before and know how much arguing there can be, adn how much it can hurt. Thank you all the same.
 
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For some strange reason, I've always said that I want a guy to be taller than me, intelligent, a true gentleman with an excellent behaviour; however, everyone I've fell in love with has been shorter than me, less intelligent than me, not the kind of gentleman at all and mischievous lads.

So, now I only want him to be a nice person to talk with, and who always has something interesting to talk about; someone who makes me laugh and who is always willing to hug me whether I need it or not.
 
what i look for :

1 Christian
2 friendly
3 smart
4 attractive
5 my parents like her and her parents like me
6 doesn't mind being around physically or mentally handicaped people (my brothers MR)
7 hard working doesn't mind sweating and getting dirty
8 a lady not rude
 
what i like in a guys um...... good looks good heart must be a christian and believe ain god um tall not way 2 tall no more than 6 foot about brown or hair luvs having fun and easy 2 talk 2 um alot like well that word the w word lol
 
thats goo king phillip lol so u live in kansas??? thats far well for me i live in texas
 
Hmm...let's see...what do I like in a guy...yeah I notice looks first, but eventually that doesn't become the main thing. I mean they still need to have nice appearance but they don't have to be the hottest guy on the planet. Hair color doesn't matter and neither does eye color (though I have to say that a guy friend of mine has the brightest blue eyes I've ever seen up close...). They need to be a Christian and personality is another big thing for me. I think I would like it if we knew each other as friends first and then a relationship formed because those usually last longer and you know more of what you're getting into if you enter a relationship with that person. I know that second half wasn't what i like in a guy but how I would prefer the relationship to start out. Oh well, that's all off my chest now ;)
 
devout catholic...someone who will give me hope when i just feel like giving up...respectful...someone who will motivate me to do my best...hot... :D
 
*Is obsessed with Will* said:
Oh and You_set_my_soul_on_fire I appreciate the support, but I wouldn't want you to get mixed into this because of me. I've been to many forums before and know how much arguing there can be, adn how much it can hurt. Thank you all the same.
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*Is obsessed with Will* I'm sorry if anything I said offended you, as this was not my intent. I wasn't trying to start an arguement, rather I was only trying to state my believes in comparison with those that you hold to; thereby stimulating a discussion which would further all of us in our understanding of the truth. In no means was I trying to attack your believes or perpetuate a fight. Are we cool? (Cause I know I am :cool: :p)

And by the way, after reviewing this thread I've made a startling discovery...the majority of women here like men that are; Tall Dark and Handsome :eek: Shocking! ;)
 
Heh, well I was never uncool with you Smog(as far as I know.. :cool: :D )
I just didn't appreciate Gryphon's post very much.
 
*intelligent (i won't say more intelligent than me, but he has to be able to hold an intelligent conversation)
*great sense of humor
*can dance
*speaks english (believe it or not, this is really important to me)
physique doesn't really matter to me, as long as he's healthy, and neither does religion (i've always been attracted to guys who have different religious beliefs from me)...
 
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